happiness

This girl in my class said something 3 weeks ago that has still stuck in my mind. She said, "Deep down, everyone just wants to be happy." I think that makes a lot of sense to why people do things. It can sort of dictate our behavior, actions and addictions. Sometimes I find myself just browsing on ebay or amazon because  maybe buying something might make me feel better. Sometimes purchasing something gives us this temporal happiness, but it usually wears out quickly. It's kind of like junk food. Good for the moment, but overtime too much of it becomes a problem. Chris, too much pizza and ice cream is not good! Self control! I guess it takes some a lot of self-discipline to deny instant gratification for a greater delayed gratification.

In counseling, one thing therapist look for is an underlying root, or a common thread that really connects the problems and narrows down the issue I ask myself, "What is it that I really want in life?" or "What am I really looking for?" And sometimes I have to remind myself of my long term goals. Sometimes we get distracted from our purpose and our passions. Living without purpose and without love, is pretty meaningless. and not to mention really boring. Sometimes we begin looking for happiness in the wrong places. we settle for idols instead of truly being satisfied in God and drawing joy from an intimate relationship with him. true happiness is correlated to growing in both our relational and spiritual health.

I started watching "The Last Man on Earth" on hulu. It's hilarious. At first i had my doubts, but then i found it pretty funny. Will Forte plays the last man on earth, and in the first episode he's doing all sorts of fun things, but then he realizes that he's really all alone. He even makes faces on sports balls and starts talking to them like tom hanks from "Cast Away." Spoiler alert, he finally meets people. But you can see how his every action boils down to putting his underlying desires first. He lies and deceives. He has a conniving and scheming character, always trying to impress others. And i think eventually he realizes he needs to change his selfish behavior for the good of others.

Lessons i need to remember. 1) Keep in mind the roots of my behavior. What makes me do the things i do. What are my motives, desires and passions? 2) Happiness is related to healthy relationships, good virtues and being purposeful. 3) Pursue happiness in the right way. stay true to your convictions. 4) Take small steps in the right direction. 5) Self confidence. Take responsibility. Believe in yourself. You can achieve whatever you want. Internal locus of control. Self Efficacy. 6) Stop thinking negatively, practice graditute and contentment. 7) cherish friendships, put other's needs before my own. 8) go exercise like a beast you lazy butt! take better care of yourself, like having better sleeping habits 9) laugh and enjoy the present 10) Fight and work to be your best self.